To understand the truth you have to be the truth

When people of all walks of life congregate at an area, we call this a gathering. When a couple whisper sweet nothings, it is known as flirting. To some it might be groggy and over the top. But to the people involved it is sweet, wonderful and passionate.

We are all clear with the phrase “nice guys finish last”, was reading Robin’s blog awhile back and saw the post on nice guys. I admit i was guilty of being a nice guy in the past. The more i read it the more i see myself doing it, do we all really have to be jerks to really be noticed by girls?

Pretty girls are so used to people being nice to them, and the are constantly looking for that rebellious, hard to get tough guy. Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a “lets get together for coffee” date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be “friends”, in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a “date”.

You see the difference. Nice guys are full of insecurity, INSECURITY IS NOT SEXY !!! – ITS A TURN OFF. Girls want to see your passions, they want to see what you can do to boost her position on the social ladder and mark my words, girls would and could climb over walls to get that perfect guy.

NICE GUYS are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her, and when things become too much of a burden the guy breaks down and think that he cannot take it anymore, *POOF* goes the relationship.

I am not saying do not be the nice guy, but once in a while we need a nice guy in all of us. Girls need to feel needed too, they need the feel that you love them more than anything else in the world. You need to stroke their Huge EGO, But we need to revert back that not every time we can give in. Logic must still come first and we have to understand our needs before we can go on the fulfill the needs of others. We must know when to give, when to show our temper *not too much* and when to whisper sweet nothings.

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who had, can and would love her just as much in her past, present and will love her just as much in the future. Thus it all boils down to whether you are able to show her what difference you are to other guys.

You don’t have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.