I it always begins with a I, as we all know the Team does not have I in it but it does have “ME”. It is the same for every relationships, why are people always rushing into one when they are unable to understand the implications that it brings? As singles we are so used to think about ourselves, the self-centered nature is in built in us ever since birth. Getting into a relationship would mean that you would have to become a team player.
Of course i am not condemning couples who are already in a relationship. But instead condemning the singles who are vividly holding on the the relishing thought of self-centered thinking. For me currently i am in a relationship, and as i get along further in this relationship i am beginning to see things that i would not normally see at the start. But as always their good points are enough to overpower the flaws.
IS it the fear of FLAWS that hinders you? i believe everyone has flaws, EVERYONE, it is the heart to willing to accept this ingrown flaw that would open you eyes to the wonderful things that are taking place in every relationship. If you are in a relationship, your partner choose you for a reason. So ask yourself deeply what is the reason you choose her as your partner?
For me it is simple, i do not want some who’s who girl, i do not want the prettiest nor do i want the smartest. She does not need to constantly try to impress people, nor do i need someone who is lovable or cheerful with a beautiful smile that beams like the sun or tears that could flood the world. I just want a simple girl, who relish most is the time we spend together.
What is a “simple girl” ? Looks are not important when it boils down to a simple girl, tell me how many of you think that you would still be wearing mascara, eye liner, foundation in your 60s? Looks never LAST, i do not admire the superficial. But it is understandable why young girls want to look pretty, it is this pop culture that we are living in that is polluting the minds. What is the trill of a short skirt? or a low cut cleavage showing top? it all only attracts unwanted attention. A simple girl would smell like sunshine in the morning, and look the most beautiful when she just wakes up from bed. no make up can ever give that effect. Who would look her best even in the most haggard looking clothing.
For my other half, she is far from a simpleton girl, there are traits that i am looking for in a girl and traits that i would detest. But that is where understanding and tolerance comes in, i cannot tell you how many times she has her mood swings or how many times she has been unbearable. But our flame is still strong and looking back i have no regrets when i thought in the past where “the grass is greener on the other side”. Right now my grass is sure greener.
It is the same thing with the love of a mum. Countless times i am guilty of causing a tiff in the family and showing disrespect, but my mum still loves me. But the love of a mother is nothing that can be compared and ever be challenged. It is this care and concern that a mother has for their child and wanting the best for them that would drive and motivate them to probe and ask. But sometimes it is this overly concern for their children that would spark any unwanted conversations and small tiff. On that note i would like to apologise to my mum over the years for all the heartbreaks i have caused, i love you mum.
PS : i hate it when people come up to me and ask so how is it between you and your girlfriend or the other day you made your gf angry how is it? Sometimes it would be parents sometimes it would be friends, i do find it irksome sometimes. So a common reply that i have for these questions are “LoL, HaHa, ok and yeah”. i am sorry if i did not entertain your questions, you might have caught me in a foul mood.
