GUYS vs L . O . V . E – meaning

AS you know, guys are not hard wired in our minds to really put our heart and mind into sitting down and plan for this special day. We are GUYS for crying out loud, if given the chance we would slack our butt off and put everything off till the last minute. Which ever guy in their logical minds would put down everything that they are doing, stop and think about that valentine’s day.

Just the other day i was watching the sitcom “two and a half men” and they had a this girl over for dinner after dinner was done, none of them wanted to do the dishes and left the poor girl to wash up. Well so much for a date ! We are guys for crying out loud, whenever you tell us your problems we take it that you want us to solve your problems. Because that is what we do best ! We would of course feel more accomplished if the problem is solved because of us.

BUT girls girls girls !! i still believe that there are some sensitive and caring guys out there, the dream of every girl. The perfect gentleman, even a mistake from him seems like it is a work of art. His jokes no matter how lame it is always get to make you laugh, his little wink would always make you go GA GA all over and boy don’t let me start with his personality and his sensuality, the sense of security that is in place and the things that he is willing to do for you OH BOY…its making me sweat just thinking about it. Is it hot in here or is it just me???

What i believe that although the world is filled with girls and guys, one day you would come across someone who would treat you just the way you want to be treated and by all means GRAB that chance and never let go. A rejection in one place would just mean an acceptance in another. What is the worst that could happen ? a reply : “NO JERK OFF…*smack*” well that would happen if you are half drunk while taking piss on the floor.

I have been in and out of various relationships, and boy when i say that there are sharks out there you better believe it. I did come a long way of trial and error, to really be competent in a relationship i believe the key is communication. Every single word to be told nothing to hide, if asked who was that or where are you going, THIS is not controlling it is just questions of concern !! i would not be who i am today if not for my past.

But the question still remains what love really is? my the other half says its me. Well i am flattered, but that is not answering the question. She just says that because the question is too vague and that there are too many answers to this one simple question. Because love is so difficult to describe BUT finally i stumbled upon the answer, and guess what its from the bible.

LOVE is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1corinthians 13:4

Where else does it better explain what love really means?

After reading that short excerpt, i realized that i was guilty of a few things. I am not saying that i do not trust my the other half or protecting or being patient or kind. But i am guilty of not showing it to my family. i am still human by the way just in case you few blundering idiots failed to notice. I have my temper too, and i am really really trying my best to calm down and think and not being to insensitive.

Of course i lost my temper at my other half a couple of times, and of course let the misunderstandings get worst because i did not want to open my BIG mouth to say whatever caused me to go Bananas. I am still learning and i am really glad and appreciative that she is still hanging on to me. she really deserve a round of applause, *Clap, Clap*.

SO i would really reward her on valentine’s day. To a relaxing day at at the SPA also to remember this special day i have organized our photos to be taken professionally. Ending the day off with dinner ! viola~ This is to thank her for sticking in with me through the thick and thin. cheers you deserve it.

when God is smiling on me…

This week is a wild roller coaster ride, nothing seemed right and well everything seems to be jumping in the wrong direction, Tantrums, mood swings, anger, laughter, joy, love and of course HAHA…

But there is really a few things to be smiling about and that is i am finally able to get back to my normal routine, heading to the gym on 1, 3, 5 swimming on 2, 4 and running during the weekends. It really feels good to have my life back on track, There were some reasons that caused me to deviate from my routine. First it was that i hurt my wrist and also the horrendous fall from the bicycle while in Ubin with Bin and Wilson. Next is of course the addition of another person into my life, this is both bitter sweet. Some things have to be sacrificed to really make this to work i won’t mention what but i really think that it was worth it and on my part i really need to be stable emotionally. *HINT : girls are GREAT thinkers* Finally now i am able to mold my routine into her BZ work load. It sure takes a lot of patience and trial and error but finally i am able to do it as of course this is not the end for i do not plan to end it here we still have a long road to walk many chapters to be written.

But with this new addition into my life, i really feel more matured and sensible. My perspective has really widen give and that is really important and so is communication. It really feels like there are nothing that we could not talk about. Even more sensitive issues such as $$, passion and lifestyle are all topics put out on the table. Communication is the key, i can feel the need of my presence, i have made my presence into laughter and joy. I know my presence is able to correct all pain and fill all holes. i feel your need, and i am glad of that.

You made God smile on me and for that i thank you, my angel.

happy hour

Tonight’s drink : water.

It’s raining in around my place this few days, and it’s a peaceful sort of rain. As if home is so inexperienced with weather, it doesn’t know how to have a proper storm. A little jingle from a wind chime here, a little puddle on a street corner there, and -look out- it’s getting wild and woolly. It’s sort of endearing.

A lot has changed this past few months. Enough to make it feel as if before were another life. In some sense, it was for me. I feel like I have died, gone to hell, and rose from the dead to get here now.

Recently i was reading NEWSWEEK and the are running a story about research from a London scientist concerning intelligence of the sexes. Adrian Furnham studies perceived intelligence.

HE SAYS he found that “women, across the world, tend to underplay their intelligence, while men overstate it. Men are more confident about their IQ. These studies show that on average, women underestimate their IQ scores by about five points while men overestimate their own IQs. Since these studies were international in scope, the results were essentially the same whether women were from Argentina, America, Britain, Japan or Zimbabwe.” Not only that, but Furnham says that both genders tend to believe that their fathers are smarter than their mothers and grandfathers are more intelligent than their grandmothers. And guess what? Parents tend to think their sons are brighter than their daughters.”

The really funny part is that this perception of greater ability is probably allowing underperforming men to beat smarter women for jobs.

“Men aren’t more clever or smarter. But since they think they are, they are more confident about their abilities. These self-beliefs, however, may be highly adaptive. Who gets a job? A bright woman who doesn’t think she’s smart, or a not-so-bright man who believes he’s capable of anything? Arrogance and hubris are not attractive qualities, but confident, self-belief may be.”

SO GUESS WHAT CHARLOTTE !! i am smarter that you although you might be smarter than me… !

special “恋爱”…

Don’t forget memories, but don’t let memories hold you in the past when you have a perfectly good future with me. What it means to indulge, you choose me from the rest because i am different from the rest of the others in the queue. It started out with a mere crush, and here we are writing pages with new entries every time our eyes meet. I might not be the best looking, might not be the cutest, i might not be the smartest, but i am sure i am the one who cares the most. I did not fell in love with your looks, i did not fall in love with your numerous talents, neither did i fall in love with what u have. But i actually realised i fell in love with you as time went by.

I am not able to give you a tangible answer as to why i liked you, but as days passed i realised that there are more to meet the eye with you. With you, it is like a bag of secrets when i put my hand in, and try to pull out something, it would always be different. You heart is like a bottomless pit until now i am not able to see the end of it. When i hope to be your personal diary, it seems to be a lot of difficulty to write on me. I believe it take time to open up, but will time her if you are not trying?

Remember “FOOTPRINTS”? the foot prints on the sand. why would you choose to walk alone when it is easier to lean on me. There is a difference with being selfless and selfish, there might not be much i can do, if you tell me your problems. But at least i can listen. If me being here and you do not feel supported in any way, at least let me feel that you need me.

Seeing you is never enough, after a goodbye, i feeling of miss is quick to fill the void where you should be, and so right now as i am typing this entry. I am missing you right now, Finally i have tear for you, ask me why i will tell you.

To understand the truth you have to be the truth

When people of all walks of life congregate at an area, we call this a gathering. When a couple whisper sweet nothings, it is known as flirting. To some it might be groggy and over the top. But to the people involved it is sweet, wonderful and passionate.

We are all clear with the phrase “nice guys finish last”, was reading Robin’s blog awhile back and saw the post on nice guys. I admit i was guilty of being a nice guy in the past. The more i read it the more i see myself doing it, do we all really have to be jerks to really be noticed by girls?

Pretty girls are so used to people being nice to them, and the are constantly looking for that rebellious, hard to get tough guy. Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a “lets get together for coffee” date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be “friends”, in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a “date”.

You see the difference. Nice guys are full of insecurity, INSECURITY IS NOT SEXY !!! – ITS A TURN OFF. Girls want to see your passions, they want to see what you can do to boost her position on the social ladder and mark my words, girls would and could climb over walls to get that perfect guy.

NICE GUYS are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her, and when things become too much of a burden the guy breaks down and think that he cannot take it anymore, *POOF* goes the relationship.

I am not saying do not be the nice guy, but once in a while we need a nice guy in all of us. Girls need to feel needed too, they need the feel that you love them more than anything else in the world. You need to stroke their Huge EGO, But we need to revert back that not every time we can give in. Logic must still come first and we have to understand our needs before we can go on the fulfill the needs of others. We must know when to give, when to show our temper *not too much* and when to whisper sweet nothings.

The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who had, can and would love her just as much in her past, present and will love her just as much in the future. Thus it all boils down to whether you are able to show her what difference you are to other guys.

You don’t have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

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The New Year with a Slam Dunk

This year upon reflection, i realized that i had only managed a hat-trick in successfully getting last New Years’ Resolution completed. Although there were many resolutions last year i still managed to complete some of it unknowingly, this year i would lower my expectations of myself.

1. Fit in Fitness

• Due to an old wrist injuy i was unable to hit the gym for at least 3 months, i have adapted this lazy attitude and now am appearing to be quite not what i used to be before. This is my first resolution and that is as soon as my wrist is recovered i would go back to the gym to a constant regiment.

2. Get Organized

• It seems like i have been going through this year very disorganized relying only on my memory of what is going to happen, and in the end missing out on quite a few events that i am suppose to show up. Which in turn burnt a hole in my pocket because those events actually require money to buy tickets to enter !!.

3. Save money

• Seems like i have really been spending money really fast, i even had to touch my saving account money quite a number of times. This is one of the more important resolutions. SAVE MONEY.

4. Having my family first

• This is one of the resolutions is one of the resolutions that i have every consecutive year and this resolution is never ending and must constantly be done and put in effort into.

5. Charlotte

• This year is would be different with Charlotte things would turn out different. People get into relationship is to become different and of course become better. Naturally support and understanding would be the so called free gift. But ultimately it would be to better yourself, in a relationship you would be thinking about yourself less and thinking for the other person you are in a relationship more. The next year with me going into the army, the one who actually needs support more would be you Charlotte W not me. To perserver and continue to love me, it would not be easy. It would take a very big heart and a huge amount of understanding. Are you able to withstand the test of time?

The New Year is again a new challenge with the coming of the year of the rat things might not be so smooth sailing but with patience and understanding i am sure things would not appear as the seem to be.

Alternation

ALTERATIONS

I so desperately need it right now. With my ass hanging on a balance i am currently riding on a facade to get things done, with the up coming common test to sit for. I really think i am a goner.

Individualism, self centered and self procrastination. All these rubbish were once part of my dammed life, with some shit ass results in the end. Often building up to some higher calling, “instead of getting a member to my fan club, what i got was a membership to another fan club.” am i really able to handle it all and pass through it with my head lifted high, with a beaming smile across my face every time?

At the start, a colour blue from far seems normal, but if upon closer inspection, under rain and the sun, the colour starts to fade, and a faint dirty brown starts to appear. Its the same for people, given some time the colour underneath would appear slowly and surely. The usual response would be to hide whatever is underneath with a facade.

Charlotte

What is love? Those people who don’t like it call it responsibility. Well there are those who play it calls it a game, there are also those who don’t have it call it a dream. Those who understand what love is calls it destiny. And me, i call it you. You ask me How am i able to handle your mood swings? well i tell u if it can be avoided just by simply closing my eyes then i wouldn’t blink at all, if all things could be avoided then effort would not even be needed to be put in. All i do is put in a little more effort to understand.
Sometimes i wish that I would be a tear in your eye to roll down your cheek and end up on your lips, but i never wish you would be a tear drop in my eyes because i know i would lose you every time i cry. Who truly understands the pain that you are going through only yourself. But there is someone here willing to share that pain.

My biggest reward now is to be able to see u smile, know that you are happy and feel that you are loved. I know sometimes life is cruel, but that is why i am here, to show to that life can be good when somebody cares. Sometimes i wonder Because caring for someone is easy but making someone care for your is hard. That is wad i keep wondering, how in the world did you make it so easy for me to care for you !!!!

Of course there are things that i hate about you !…I hate it when you smile because you make me go GUGU over you, I hate it when you talk to me because you make me run out of words AND lastly i hate you when i see you because when i see you, you make me love you even more.

Lastly i wanna say is that as long as one person cares for you, life isn’t a waste. So when things go terribly wrong, and you feel like giving up, PLEASE PLEASE remember that you still got me. This kuku rooting for you.

I AM CRAZY OVER HER

CATCH – ” i am crazy over her” now on 5, right after news 5 tonight.

CAST

1. Clement as Clem
2. Charlotte as char
3. Dummy #1
4. Dummy #2
5. Dummy #3
6. Dummy #4

SUMMARY

Its about how Clem fell in love with char. This is a comedy suitable for all ages, it is rated PG. It is an ongoing episode showing the main characters and supporting going thought trials with all the Dummies involved this is one interesting show to catch. This would sure captivate you in your seats till the end and wanting more.

My Little Wanton Mee…

“My little Wanton Mee”

My little wanton mee lives in a bowl with wanton and mee, sometimes chilli wants to join in. But most of the time is just Wanton and Mee. Chopsticks is the normal form of transport, it bring wanton and mee to any place that they wanna go. But normally, the only place they want to go in to the land of mouth and teeth. This is the story of my little wanton mee.